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Family “Recipe” Fridays: The Wilson’s*

This week’s feature family is the Wilson’s (names are changed for privacy).  She shared, “I never thought we would have problems having children.  I come from a family of six and my husband has 3 brothers.  It has been a long road but we are so happy to finally have our son.  I’m hoping the next time it won’t be as difficult but I ... Read More »

Daily Themes

Starting next month “Recipe for a Family” will have daily themes that address different issues with Adoption/Loss/Infertility.  Following will be the format: Miracle Mondays:  Faith-based support and success stories The Truth about Trying Tuesdays:  Facts about Adoption/Loss/Infertility While you Wait Wednesdays:  Weekly tips/activities to help deal with the waiting (2ww, waiting for “the call”, general waiting, dealing with disappointments) The Thursday Thinker:  A weekly ... Read More »

Open Adoption: Changing your Child’s Name

I went to pick-up my daughter from Girl Scouts yesterday and they had painted Valentine T-shirts  They were very cute and had hearts on them with their names painted on the front.  I looked around for my daughter’s and couldn’t find it.  Then I found one with her middle name on it: “Layla” (which is the first name her birth mom picked for her.)  She has been talking about ... Read More »

When there’s Nothing to Say

I have been following some of the forums on the RESOLVE website and the stories I read are heartbreaking.  I want to tell them “Hang in there” but how empty is that?  I want to advise them to be patient and be ready to try the next intervention (IUI, IVF, DE), but that is just a game plan.  What I ... Read More »


Joining an online forum is a really helpful outlet for anyone going through infertility or considering adoption.  There were so many questions I had going through the process and I wish I had been able to go online and just ask my questions.  Anything from practical tips to discussing how to get through the next two weeks.  You can use ... Read More »

Domestic Newborn Adoption

On one of the adoption forums a member asked if there were some adoption agencies that specialized in certain kinds of adoption.  There certainly are and some are more open about that than others.  Remember that adoption is not just for people who have infertility.  So the question is are they trying to find the best home for the children they want to place ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 6)

On this day, January 21, 11 years ago, our son Jacob Charles Rasmussen passed away.  He was 23 days old.  The new doctor that came in that day sat us down and explained there was nothing else they could do.  His kidneys had failed.  “What about a kidney transplant?”  I offered.  Not an option for a 3 pound baby.  “What about ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 5)

On this day, January 20, 11 years ago Jacob turned three weeks old.  In the calendar journal we kept it simply says, “We are all very tired.”  That sums it up.  This three-week marathon in the NICU was preceded by 5 weeks of bedrest where we knew if he had been born any one of those days he wouldn’t have had a chance.  ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 4)

On this day, January 19, 11 years ago Jacob was barely hanging on.  He had gained a lot of weight over night which you would think would be a good thing for a preemie but in this case it meant that his kidneys weren’t getting rid of the fluids.  Now his liver was showing signs of failure.  His bilirubin was very ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 3)

On this day, January 18, 11 years ago Jacob was still alive, still fighting for his life.  He was 20 days old and still holding on.  I had stayed up with him all night knowing it may be our last moments together.  He showed some improvement throughout the day.  His blood pressure improved, his ECHO came back OK and they were ... Read More »