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Announcing my Book Project!

For the past two years I have been working on writing a book about how our family came together.  Recipe for a Family: A Handful of Preemies, a Couple of Orphans and the Baby Next Door is the inspirational true story of how we went from the multiple losses of miscarriage, stillbirth and the death of our three-week-old son to ... Read More »

Miracle Monday: “Hannah’s Hope”: Put Yourself in my Shoes

Chapter 5 of “Hannah’s Hope” by Jennifer Saake discusses how to cope with other people’s’ comments during infertility or after a loss of a baby at any stage: “People who haven’t walked in our shoes have no idea of the depths to which we grieve and experience anger and hopelessness.” We have all been subjected to insensitive comments.  Most people ... Read More »

Miracle Monday: Miscarriage, Infant Loss Help

Hopefully you have been reading, “When the Cradle is Empty” by John and Sylvia Van Regenmorter along with us these past Mondays.  Last week we finished the weekly book review and before I start my next review series I wanted to offer a resource for those who have dealt with miscarriage and/or infant loss.  A Place to Remember is a wonderful website ... Read More »

Miracle Monday: “When the Cradle is Empty” Chap. 11

We have been reading “When the Cradle is Empty” by John and Sylvia Van Regenmorter.  This week we look at Chapter 11:  Pregnancy and Infant Loss.  As you may be familiar, the community of infertility is sometimes referred to as the ALI Community standing for Adoption, Loss, and Infertility.  So often loss is a piece of infertility and often what ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 6)

On this day, January 21, 11 years ago, our son Jacob Charles Rasmussen passed away.  He was 23 days old.  The new doctor that came in that day sat us down and explained there was nothing else they could do.  His kidneys had failed.  “What about a kidney transplant?”  I offered.  Not an option for a 3 pound baby.  “What about ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 5)

On this day, January 20, 11 years ago Jacob turned three weeks old.  In the calendar journal we kept it simply says, “We are all very tired.”  That sums it up.  This three-week marathon in the NICU was preceded by 5 weeks of bedrest where we knew if he had been born any one of those days he wouldn’t have had a chance.  ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 4)

On this day, January 19, 11 years ago Jacob was barely hanging on.  He had gained a lot of weight over night which you would think would be a good thing for a preemie but in this case it meant that his kidneys weren’t getting rid of the fluids.  Now his liver was showing signs of failure.  His bilirubin was very ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 3)

On this day, January 18, 11 years ago Jacob was still alive, still fighting for his life.  He was 20 days old and still holding on.  I had stayed up with him all night knowing it may be our last moments together.  He showed some improvement throughout the day.  His blood pressure improved, his ECHO came back OK and they were ... Read More »

Jacob’s Last Days (Part 1)

This week I will share the story of a remarkable baby and how he touched our lives in his short life.  11 years ago our son Jacob was born.  He was born at 24 weeks and weighed 1 pound 11 ounces.  Born way too soon.  He was born on December 30, 2000 after I had been on a long roller-coaster-ride ... Read More »